Dear Western Muslims
If you’re Muslim and you live in a secular or country in the West, this is a message to you. It really needs to be said.
You live in a country where there is no sharia law. Child marriage, stonings, are outlawed. Yet one look at society, at social media and I feel myself getting angry. Why? Because of this.
‘” #ExMuslimBecause islam doesn’t give women rights ” sorry love its not Islam’s fault that your dad doesn’t let you leave the house’
This made me so freaking angry. You really have no idea how lucky you are, compared to your Muslim brothers and sisters in Islamic countries like Saudi, Iran and Brunei. If you decided to leave Islam, the country you’re in wouldn’t decide to slaughter you publicly. Why is it I see and hear most of you downplaying the suffering of Muslims in other countries, and in particular women? Why do you say it’s culture, not Islam? Why do you say it’s society – when the society is clearly Islamic? Maybe that Ex Muslim decided to leave Islam after seeing the lovely way Allah describes women in 2:223 of the Qua’ran or 4:11, 4:34, 4:24 ect.
Your wives are a tilth for you; so approach your wives when and how you like but take heed of your ultimate future; and fear God and know that you shall meet Him; and give good tidings to those who obey [Quran 2:223]
4:11 : Allah instructs you concerning your children: for the male, what is equal to the share of two females.
Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband’s] absence what Allah would have them guard. But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance – [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allah is ever Exalted and Grand.
4:24 : And [also prohibited to you are all] married women except those your right hands possess.
2:282: “…And get two witnesses out of your own men. And if there are not two men (available), then a man and two women, such as you agree for witnesses, so that if one of them (two women) errs, the other can remind her…”
Narrated Abu Said Al-Khudri:
Once Allah’s Apostle went out to the Musalla (to offer the prayer) o ‘Id-al-Adha or Al-Fitr prayer. Then he passed by the women and said, “O women! Give alms, as I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-fire were you (women).” They asked, “Why is it so, O Allah’s Apostle ?” He replied, “You curse frequently and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. A cautious sensible man could be led astray by some of you.” The women asked, “O Allah’s Apostle! What is deficient in our intelligence and religion?” He said, “Is not the evidence of two women equal to the witness of one man?” They replied in the affirmative. He said, “This is the deficiency in her intelligence. Isn’t it true that a woman can neither pray nor fast during her menses?” The women replied in the affirmative. He said, “This is the deficiency in her religion.”
Sahih Bukhari 1:6:301
After all this, maybe this hypothetical Ex Muslim female had a bigger issue with being called a tilth, having half inheritance rights and her testimony counting for half and being told her husband can ‘strike’ her, rather than her father forbidding her from leaving the house. I’m glad when I see Western Muslim females opting not to wear the hijab, or wearing makeup, or western clothes. But do you honestly think, because you have this right, that’s it’s universal? I’ll reiterate the same point: what you have experienced doesn’t account for every person of your faith in the world. There are people suffering because of Islam. It’s a fact. Accept it.
I support #StopEnslavingSaudiWomen and #ExMuslimBecause passionately. One thing I don’t appreciate is tweets from Muslims belittling Ex Muslims for leaving Islam, and telling us we ‘dabbed’ out of Islam, so we can ‘dab’ in hell with shaytaan. Yet these are the same people who demand unequivocal respect for their religion, cry over cartoons and any satire and criticism, whilst complaining how much Islamophobia is present in the West. Don’t undermine the suffering your Saudi Sisters go through with deflections of ‘it’s not islam, it’s culture’. Is that why the supreme scholars declare male guardianship must prevail? Is that why the concept of mahrams is found in hadiths and Islam?
Do you ever consider those who are forced to wear hijab, burqas and niqabs? Do you ever consider those who are under threat of the authorities killing them for apostasy? Do you ever consider them? It’s not simply culture when it has textual basis in your religion.
Be grateful for your liberties and freedom. But don’t undermine, ignore, deflect the suffering of so many Muslims in the world, just because it’s connected to Islam. I’m aware of the fact many western Muslims aren’t like this at all, and this post is addressed to the people who do think this way. Stop it. Just stop. Because underneath all of it, we are all human. We should all rise up against oppression, and not divide ourselves into the destructive mindset of ‘us versus them’. Let’s all campaign against forced marriage, male guardianship, forced conversions, child marriage, FGM, hate crime, prejudice and abuse. Let’s all fight for the emancipation of Saudi Women. But respect is a two way street. Do not belittle my fellow Ex Muslims. Freedom of speech will still prevail. If you are uncomfortable with the fact some of us left Islam, you need to grow up. I know it’s hard for you to hear we disagree with Islam and we are no longer part of it, but don’t censor us.
I do not agree with what you have to say, but I’ll defend to the death your right to say it.